When Baby Comes Home: What Can Dad Do?
First Weeks With Baby
I’m sure many of you are wondering what you can do to help momma out when that new baby comes home. Those first days in the hospital have flown by and now it is time to take your bundle of joy home. You warily carry the carseat from the hospital holding it as a delicate flower. As you walk the jostling causes her head to bobble slightly. Slowing down the pace as to not give her whiplash. You have now experienced the dangers that lurk out in the great big world. Gray hairs are in the making…
When Kristina and I brought Elikai home it felt as if every little thing was going to hurt him. Now don’t get me wrong I had experience around babies, at the time I had over 20 nieces and nephews. But a child of your own totally changes the way you see the world. I realized that I was no longer just looking out for myself. The weight of the responsibility that is fatherhood suddenly came crashing down on me. I drove 10mph under the limit all the way home.
Home life for us totally changed after Elikai. No longer were we the foot loose and fancy free couple of our first 6 years of marriage. Being a fully involved dad and supportive husband was at the top of my priorities list.
How Can Dad Help
When Kristina was breastfeeding I made sure to be helpful. I would get up and change diapers in the middle of the night. Rock him when he was being fussy but wasn’t eating well. Often I bottle fed him pumped breastmilk, therefore releaving momma from the feeding frenzy.
I made a point to be helpful. I still felt useless, but at least I made an effort. My efforts were not unnoticed, multiple times Kristina commented on how helpful I was. These moments were great for us. I grew closer to both Kristina and Elikai in those weeks and over the past two years. Parenthood has made me a better person, and I feel as if I am more mindful of how I can help around the house.
Dads are an integral part of childhood. Please be present, active fathers and let your babies know that they are loved. Helping out in any way possible can really relieve some of the stress off your significant other. Us men have a responsibility to show our children and significant others just how much we care.
Please comment with how you as a dad helped out during those first weeks after baby came home? Ladies how have the men in your life helped (or what do you wish they would have done) to make the transition into parenthood easier?